CoNfLiCt! . . . resolution?

I physiologically respond to conflict by literally feeling sick.  At times I get nauseous or feel dark, heavy and empty inside. I feel guilty when I know I should be solving whatever conflict is in front of me.  Eventually it is all I can think about until I fix it.  But, I hate to admit that I usually go through a period of avoidance of the conflict, I might feel anger and hold it inside, and then I either get angry or blame myself completely. Either way it just eats me up inside.  However, facing the conflict is always better on myself.
The best way for me to face conflicts is to deal with them in the very beginning stages of the conflict, instead of letting it fester inside of me.
So how do I manage my thoughts and emotions to channel the best conflict resolution?

     STEP 1: Pray about the problem and for the people I'm dealing with.

                    STEP 2: Figure out what I personally could do better.

                                  STEP 3: Confrontation.  It's gotta happen, just remember to communicate with love.

                                                 STEP 4: Be willing to compromise and have an open heart as I figure out the best way to fix whatever is creating conflict.